TO SEE PICS OF REMODELING, GO TO PREVIOUS POST AND CLICK ON THE LINKS.
Sorry I had to publish the previous post even though I have a lot more to say. After I copied the pics of my remodeling, the screen froze so much that I could hardly type so I decided on this follow-up post. Anyhoo, the remodeling went better than I expected and I am elated. I learned so much from the whole experience. The first is that I have to stop feeling like a little girl who is asking for the impossible. The contractor was wonderful. His work was top-notch, but despite this, there's always something that you see that you want fixed. And here I stumbled. I started feeling anxious at the very idea that I had to speak up; that I had to demand. Duh, I paid him good money for him to do this work so why am I afraid to speak up? I'll tell you why -- deep down I have the "I want to be liked" syndrome. That's how I was brought up. A girl/woman should be liked above all things; they shouldn't be too demanding, etc., etc., etc. Well I did not cave in to these old tapes and I rose to the occasion. Furthermore, he went ahead and fixed them to my satisfaction so I'm very proud of myself. I think this was one of the reasons why I dreaded redoing the bathroom in the first place! Ah, the things we hide from ourselves. How creatively we spin our web of lies.
The second thing I learned is that people will become jealous. People you never thought in a million years would get jealous. I took offense at someone's remark who thought it was funny -- I'm sure he didn't think I would lose sleep over it -- but I did not see the humor in it at all. It hurt me but on the positive side I learned that I am no longer that person who will let people walk all over them. That person is gone.
All in all, the remodeling was a good experience all around. Have you ever felt anxious about speaking up? Is there a decision, action you are neglecting to make? Do you know why?